Facebook's Privacy Strip Tease

Facebook is pushing its users to make their profile information public, and as with any change the popular site makes, there is a lot of controversy surrounding it. As a member of numerous social networking sites, some public and some private, I have mixed feelings surrounding my privacy settings on Facebook.

First, to begin with the all too over-used comparison between Facebook and Twitter. On Twitter, I know my updates are public, therefore I don't post all my business there, and I don't use my full name on my profile because I don't want my tweets to showing up in Google search results above my portfolio site when I do a vanity search. Facebook on the other hand, advertises itself as a place to share your life with your family and friends. Maybe some people use the term "friend" more loosely, but to me, a friend is someone I would want to hang out with in real life, hence 95% of my Facebook friends are people I know outside of the interwebs. The privacy of Facebook allows me to post more intimate details of my life, as well as photos of my son to those I am comfortable showing that information to. Twitter and Facebook serve two different purposes for me and they do it well just the way they are.

I understand that Facebook is a free service that has the right to make changes to their site and policies as they please, but if they continue to knock down the walled garden, there is a lot of personal data I will have to delete and status updates and photos I will no longer be able to post, making it useless for how I want to use my account. And yes, I understand that Facebook has update by update privacy control, but those controls are not available on the iPhone app which is my main way of using the service.

Twitter provides simplicity. You sign up and can start tweeting away instantly. Facebook is the PC of the social networking world. You sign up, and have to spend some time setting up privacy settings for each section of your profile and creating friend lists to control who can see various parts of your profile before you ever post your first update.

My biggest problem with Facebook's privacy strip tease is: What are their plans for any publicly shared information? Will all my updates and photos eventually show up in Google search results attached to my full name? Will my profile picture be used in an advertisement on another friend's page? I would be more open to making more of my profile public if Facebook would be more open with me.

UPDATE: Poll Results 1/12/10 - 1/19/10

Is public the new social norm?
20% Yes
60% No
20% Meh

It's Complicated?

On Facebook & many other sites there is a wide variety of relationship status options one can pick from to list on their profile. Facebook gives the following choices:

• Single
• In a Relationship
• Engaged
• Married
• It's Complicated
• In an Open Relationship

When it comes to relationship status, I am curious what "It's Complicated" means. As far as I know, you're either in a relationship or not.

Is this a choice for those actually in a relationship but still want to keep their options open? Maybe it's for divorsed couples who still live together to make ends meet. Why not just say you're single or in an open relationship? And why would someone want to hookup with someone who is in a complicated point in their life?

Can someone please share a good reason for selecting the "It's Complicated" relationship status?

UPDATE: Poll Results 1/20/09 - 1/27/09

Do you have a good understanding of the "It's Complicated"
relationship status?
40% I have first hand experience
00% I understand what it means
60% I don't get it
00% Meh